Posts Tagged ‘challenges’

Somebody asked me today, “If you were an animal, what would you be?” I snapped the question with the answer: “At this point of my life, I am so eager to be an eagle.” If you know the story about The Life of an Eagle, you’ll get the idea as to why I chose this creature.

Contemplating the recounted claims about the eagle’s life, I would say that the constructed facts about an eagle have been presented in a sensational manner considering the ornithological depictions of it. Perhaps, the story might have been conceived with a premeditated idea or reference to the mythical phoenix. Nevertheless, the story can teach us lessons of survival and change.


The Eagle has the longest life-span of its species. It can live up to 70 years. But to reach this age, the eagle must make a hard decision.

In its 40th year its long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey which serves as food. Its long and sharp beak becomes bent. It’s old-aged and heavy wings, due to their thick feathers, stick to its chest and make it difficult to fly.

Then, the eagle is left with only two options: DIE or go through a painful process of CHANGE which lasts 150 days. The process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on its nest. There the eagle knocks its beak against a rock until it plucks it out.

Then the eagle will wait for a new beak to grow back and then it will pluck out its talons. When its new talons grow back, the eagle starts plucking its old-aged feathers.

And after 5 months, the eagle takes its famous flight of rebirth and lives for 30 more years.

Why is change needed? Many times, in order to survive we have to start a change process. We sometimes need to get rid of old memories, habits and other past traditions. Only freed from past burdens, can we take advantage of the present.


On the Wings of Change

And why the eagerness to emerge as an eagle? As for me, well, I ought to embrace change. We all do at some point in time. Even the most erudite CEOs and leaders in the business world need to create change by taking risks. When you complain a lot about how your life or your business has been in a deep rut, yet you never open your eyes to the reality that it’s going to take a painful and radical process to change, then don’t expect for any change at all.

Your circumstance will become more dire than ever if you just allow yourself to feed on negativity and narrow-mindedness.

When your willpower draws near to its lowest ebb, that’s the moment when you must let your momentum go full speed ahead.





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“You should blog often.” Taken as a demand or a compliment? Compliment. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be posting this. Besides, somebody told me to write a new entry to reverse the theme of my previous posts. You know, it’s sort of discomfiting that those posts were perceived as downbeat. I quote: “Read between the lines. Your posts suggest the theme so-called “I-hate-the-world.” Indeed, ‘In the Bleak Winter’ itself implies a Hades moment in my life. That doesn’t humor me at all.

To start with, I am pleased to say that I am coherently blissful! Last week, I wanted to pronounce my incomprehensible joy through scribbling, but thought the feeling would subside. I just didn’t know why I felt that way— maybe because I have suddenly learned how to unchain myself from the unknown fear.

When I was still moping around (due to the bad feedback on my project), the comment of Holly jumped out at me: “I hope you cheer up soon! Sometimes when things don’t work out the way we thought or planned, it’s actually a blessing. It just takes a while to figure it out. Hang in there!” True enough, I couldn’t agree more with her. Days before 2009 ended, I thought December would mark the denouement of the rat year, troubles rat-a-tat-tatted on me however. I went on sulking for a week. I partied, I smiled and laughed but the sting of failure traveled deep inside my nerves. Until one day, I got a call from a woman, whom I believed to be a secretary of the department.

Woman: “Did you receive the email we sent you yesterday?”
Me:         “No, I didn’t. What was it all about?”
Woman: “You suppose to meet the admin director today at 11 am.”
Me:         “It’s already 12 noon. What do you want me to do?”
Woman: “How about 2pm?”
Me:         “When? Today?”
Woman: “Yes.”
Me:         “Mmmm… Okay, 2pm. I’ll be there.”

Right after this call, I asked myself why I said yes to that meeting; I would just be blabbering the same explanation. But I went anyway. Then I met the giant guy in his office- there I vindicated my left and right side. To my surprise he bought my explanation. In other words, I was given the last chance to redo my project, but on one condition- aside from that project, I had to do another book-digging and commit-to-memory task. Towards the end of this tête-à-tête, I vented my gratitude for his consideration, but what I really would like to tell him was “Sorry, but I am not gonna do it. I quit. It’s finito!” I’d like to believe the project was not going anywhere and it would just be a waste of time, but in the back of my mind, I felt the need to redeem myself with these two formidable tasks that I considered ‘brick walls’. I have climbed them once but I slipped and fell. In that sense though, I think they were beyond a reasonable doubt worth a second try. In like manner, I have climbed tougher and more daunting brick walls than these, so why should I chicken out this time?

Correspondingly, I did what I ought to do— WMAO (Work My Ass Off). With the given deadline, I had to stretch tasks to fit the time I had. I would go to bed at 4am-ish as soon as I finished deciphering information and arguments with my grotesque thinking and my eyes crossing. Those sleepless nights never failed to smear my eyes with dark eye shadows. I got pressured to the edge and turned my Christmas vacation into ho-LID-day. Think of a scenario when you have to bottle yourself in with a restraint or a lid to stay focused. After a determined effort, I got the project done before the cutoff date. The agony of waiting for the result made me antsy for days. Eventually, when I got it yesterday, I said “Cloud Nine”. The toil has paid off handsomely, I made it over the wall. Redemption accomplished. I can now move on to another brick wall.

Indeed, brick walls suggestively, are there for a reason- to hold us back, to shut us off or to stop us. When faced with challenging brick walls, we come to the point in our life where we have to decide whether to painstakingly climb/crush those walls or just withdraw. Either way, it shows how desperately we want something, thus, executing the Law of Intention.

Wrapping up, this experience has certainly proved to be a positive one despite  the negative undergoing, for it has helped my inner strength grow at least an inch.

So to You, you, you, and you,  you know who you are, THANK YOU!

Now, I need a real getaway vacation.

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Say it out loud- “I LOVE CHALLENGES!”

When I looked through the summary report of the workforce’s performance posted on the entrance wall a week ago, the highlighted name of a colleague got stuck in my eyes and in my head like glue. For the first time this year, somebody got acknowledged by her outstanding work. I have to admit it made me green with envy, not in a negative sense. I’ve actually been toiling with this ‘donkeywork’, so to speak, but never felt really fulfilled. Suddenly, a motivational envy pumped me up. I reversed envy into challenge and it surely was a healthy dose of vitamin E (Envy). That word ‘E’ is perfectly normal as long as you use it positively. I always think of it as fuel to drive my way to attaining a goal, worthy or not.

Hitting the road on my way home that day, I told myself, “If she can, why can’t I…?” That was the time I took a shot of vitamin C (Challenge). Going back to E, envy could constructively add flavor to your work, as it did to mine, that makes competition more exciting. I hope I don’t come across as ‘the green-eyed monster’. No, I’m not. I was just ignited by the idea of achieving something that I believe I can by channelling my energies to what is supposed to be done. Crunch this, there’s no need for you to envy somebody or anybody. You just have to use the person you envy not as someone to compete with but someone to emulate. Mind you, being challenged, I was also working ‘ridiculously crazy’. Trying to surpass what she has accomplished was like climbing up a pole until I reached the flag of a feat (all the reason to stick to the job for a while).

Yesterday, when I walked by the news flash board, my heart missed a bit when I saw my name on the list highlighted in green neon, not only on one sheet but two. Ho ho ho! That’s what you call PL (Performance Level) to the max twinned by another PL (Passion-Liveliness/ joie de vivre!). I don’t intend to blow my own horn by putting this down here. I just wanted to underscore that finally, my hard work has paid off at least in that manner. What do I get from that? Talk to the hands of the company system! Not negotiable- no incentive, no bucks handed in, no extra cheque, no “employee of the month” award plaque but it definitely made me ‘a bit’ fulfilled, lol! I’m not a person who only works for the sake of money but for self- actualization cause as long as a challenge could boost me up when I feel that my motivation is waning.

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Adulthood: unnumbered strange things happen when one reaches this stage.

So what constitutes maturity, and thus adulthood? Adulthood is not based on official age; it’s based strictly on maturity in all aspects (emotionally, physically and spiritually).

choicesWhen you reach a certain age in your life, you sometimes realize that what you always wanted isn’t really what you want anymore and I’m not talking about being fickle-minded. The desire you’ve always clamped to be a doctor, teacher or educator, actor, lawyer, dentist, banker or whatever may fall by the wayside when you uncover that your passion was idealized or that the daily grind of your career isn’t as gratifying as you had foreseen.

Maybe you actually loved your job as a teacher until you decided to have your own family and found that the long hours spent on your paper works socked a familial chord in you that just couldn’t be disregarded. Maybe you were a successful businessman or banker who realized that writing is actually your passion. Or you were a dentist who discovered that your ardour is of language and not of the chopper-teeth.

Whether you like it or not, you will be passing from one development stage of life to another. Sometimes you detour; sometimes you march through life crossroads. As we mature, our needs change. You may even notice that there is this inner call for change that steers you to deliberate those “What ifs?” thoughts that are bugging you.

If self-reinvention has been on your mind, defy yourself to a life evaluation. Whatever is vexing you the most (changing career, health, relationships, family, etc.) challenge yourself to fix and tend to it or them. Let’s say you’re on the verge of career transition; ask yourself these questions:
A) What’s important to you about your work and career? Is it the praise, the need to help others? The income?

B) What are you doing to actualize your goals? Would you rather invest in the time needed to embark on a new professional journey… or would you prefer to be stuck at the same gig for the next five or 10 (or more) years?


These queries will give you a clearer idea of the direction you should take for the next phase of your life. Snatch the bridles and track the path that you’ve always wanted to take.

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When I skimmed the word ‘changeology’ through the dictionary, I didn’t find a match on the word. Then I asked, ‘why not rope this word in my own vocabulary since I always love the idea of change?’

When people hailed me as a ‘chameleon’, I took it positively. However, I prefer being called a ‘changeologist’ which for me is a more substantial term. We know for a fact that a chameleon is a lizard that has the ability to change color, and why does it change its color? To camouflage itself from the harmful enemies and significantly, to adapt itself to its environment. Metaphorically, when a person is described as chameleon, the reference to the animal is generally a commentary on the person’s ability to blend into various social situations and the ability to fit or adjust himself to the ever-changing world.

For anyone who is tired of the status quo and interested in living a different life, the solution is change! It may be that you’re tired of the place you work, hairstyle, crazy lifestyle, bad habits/ attitudes, or rutty routines. It may be that you’re interested in living in a different part of the country. Or it may be that you’re entertaining thoughts of losing weight and living a healthier life. The list is endless, but if you’re serious about making these thoughts become your reality, then change must be a part of your future. As that old saying so aptly states, “If you keep doing what you’ve always done… you’ll keep getting what you’ve always got!”

Change is the one true constant in life. It has no boundaries, it challenges us all and it frightens many of us. But without change life is static – we cannot grow and we cannot learn. There is no progress and we will not evolve. But change is often challenging, so embracing change takes courage.

The force of change shakes up our comfort zone and puts pressure on us to re-examine long held beliefs that force us to let go of the things in life that no longer work for us. Death, divorce, job loss, financial difficulties… are formidable changes to wrap our heads and hearts around, yet the more we resist, the more difficult the changes become. The future belongs to those who not only accept change, but embrace it. Though being on the front end of change isn’t for the faint of heart.

Resisting change will only make you miserable over the inevitable. I have worked hard with the phenomenon of ‘change myself’, finally realizing that there isn’t a thing I can do to stop it. I now look at change as transformative and as constant as the seasons. My perspective has evolved from pure fear to a sense of adventure.

One of the most productive ways to embrace change is to approach it positively, believing that the outcome will be for the highest good, whether we want to change or not. Open your mind to contemplate what benefits could come of the new reality. The more optimistic we are, the more the universe allows us to experience new opportunities in life. Change keeps us evolving toward our highest goals and enlightens us as to why we are here on this earth.

If you are able to see or intuit changes coming your way you can grasp and work with them more effectively. More often than not the winds of change are breathed to us through gut feelings, déjà vu and synchronistic events. When you listen, you are rewarded with possibilities. When we ignore these signs we run the risk of suffering circumstances that are dumped into our lap.

Some find embracing change tougher than others. When unexpected change seems too merciless to even contemplate, look for support. Find a role model or a personal change hero, who is going though or has done what you need to do. Make a collage of this person and yourself surrounded by images that represent the changes and positive words or phrases. Look at your collage daily, reflect on the good things that have happened in the past, to regain trust that your future will include more positive experiences.

Meditate on potential positive outcomes instead of worrying about worst case scenarios, when change forces its way into your life. Instead of wallowing in the negative, why not try wallowing in the information for a while, to insure that decisions made in the face of change lead to a preferred future reality.

In conclusion, when fate steps in and rocks your life, get excited about the possibilities, use your sense of adventure, and look for the joy of growth, because in the end, “Change always takes us where we need to be!”

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