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Somebody asked me today, “If you were an animal, what would you be?” I snapped the question with the answer: “At this point of my life, I am so eager to be an eagle.” If you know the story about The Life of an Eagle, you’ll get the idea as to why I chose this creature.

Contemplating the recounted claims about the eagle’s life, I would say that the constructed facts about an eagle have been presented in a sensational manner considering the ornithological depictions of it. Perhaps, the story might have been conceived with a premeditated idea or reference to the mythical phoenix. Nevertheless, the story can teach us lessons of survival and change.


The Eagle has the longest life-span of its species. It can live up to 70 years. But to reach this age, the eagle must make a hard decision.

In its 40th year its long and flexible talons can no longer grab prey which serves as food. Its long and sharp beak becomes bent. It’s old-aged and heavy wings, due to their thick feathers, stick to its chest and make it difficult to fly.

Then, the eagle is left with only two options: DIE or go through a painful process of CHANGE which lasts 150 days. The process requires that the eagle fly to a mountain top and sit on its nest. There the eagle knocks its beak against a rock until it plucks it out.

Then the eagle will wait for a new beak to grow back and then it will pluck out its talons. When its new talons grow back, the eagle starts plucking its old-aged feathers.

And after 5 months, the eagle takes its famous flight of rebirth and lives for 30 more years.

Why is change needed? Many times, in order to survive we have to start a change process. We sometimes need to get rid of old memories, habits and other past traditions. Only freed from past burdens, can we take advantage of the present.


On the Wings of Change

And why the eagerness to emerge as an eagle? As for me, well, I ought to embrace change. We all do at some point in time. Even the most erudite CEOs and leaders in the business world need to create change by taking risks. When you complain a lot about how your life or your business has been in a deep rut, yet you never open your eyes to the reality that it’s going to take a painful and radical process to change, then don’t expect for any change at all.

Your circumstance will become more dire than ever if you just allow yourself to feed on negativity and narrow-mindedness.

When your willpower draws near to its lowest ebb, that’s the moment when you must let your momentum go full speed ahead.





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As a Friend…

"One of the hardest things to do in life is to listen without intent to reply."

One of the hardest things to do in life is to listen without intent to reply.

When friends need your guidance and when they are in the midst of making a decision, and they need to have a sanity check with you, make time for them.

Be prepared for long conversations that don’t go anywhere but around in circles. As a friend, you need to be a good listener and a good cheerleader — just like they have been for you in the past. Stay patient and positive. You can help them just by being yourself and being there for them.

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Bad habit? I have a bunch of that and I just hate it! I’ve encountered bad habits along my way. Bad habits such as smoking, unhealthy relationship, procrastination (my worst habit ever), going to bed late, eating too much or making bad decisions etc., letting go of one of these is such a struggle. The roadblocks you encounter can seem insurmountable at the time, but once you’ve let the habit go once and for all, you can’t imagine ever having had it in the first place!

These simple tips can somehow help you put those bad habits into rest:

Try, try again
Maybe you even gave your bad habit up a couple of times before finally kicking it – and that’s okay. When you come to the realization that there is something that no longer serves you, the tendency is to make a quick break and cut it out without regard for the reasons as to why the habit developed in the first place. By doing this, you run the risk of picking it up again.

Instead, look consciously at your habit. What triggers you wanting to do it? Keep a log of your emotional triggers related to the habit to get a better understanding of it. For instance, if you started smoking when you were a rebellious teen and are now trapped in an addictive pattern that you’d like to be free of, try addressing your original intent and if you decide it no longer serves you, let it go in your mind. Then speak it out loud, write it down and release it.

Visualize and scribe
Take more time to concentrate inward on how you feel when you think about quitting. Do you feel panic… relief… calm? Pay attention to your reactions and even write them down. Focus on making peace with them. Next, visualize yourself living your life “bad habit free.” Now think about what that feels like. Probably pretty good! Now tell the story of your new (habit free!) life in your journal.

Set a date
To seriously quit something, pick a reasonable date and commit to it. Then keep in mind that one slip does not mean that you’re a failure – it means you’re learning how to get it right! Don’t fall into the trap of thinking that one bad step puts you back at the bottom of the mountain – it doesn’t! That’s part of climbing and you may fall several more times before reaching your goal.
Regardless of the bad habit that you’re struggling with remember that you are on a path of learning. Remember to honor yourself through the process and don’t be overly critical. Let go of unrealistic expectations. Look for the underlying reason you are drawn to things. Then accept yourself, flaws and all, as you reveal and let go of the things that no longer work in your life. Good luck!

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