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Adulthood: unnumbered strange things happen when one reaches this stage.

So what constitutes maturity, and thus adulthood? Adulthood is not based on official age; it’s based strictly on maturity in all aspects (emotionally, physically and spiritually).

choicesWhen you reach a certain age in your life, you sometimes realize that what you always wanted isn’t really what you want anymore and I’m not talking about being fickle-minded. The desire you’ve always clamped to be a doctor, teacher or educator, actor, lawyer, dentist, banker or whatever may fall by the wayside when you uncover that your passion was idealized or that the daily grind of your career isn’t as gratifying as you had foreseen.

Maybe you actually loved your job as a teacher until you decided to have your own family and found that the long hours spent on your paper works socked a familial chord in you that just couldn’t be disregarded. Maybe you were a successful businessman or banker who realized that writing is actually your passion. Or you were a dentist who discovered that your ardour is of language and not of the chopper-teeth.

Whether you like it or not, you will be passing from one development stage of life to another. Sometimes you detour; sometimes you march through life crossroads. As we mature, our needs change. You may even notice that there is this inner call for change that steers you to deliberate those “What ifs?” thoughts that are bugging you.

If self-reinvention has been on your mind, defy yourself to a life evaluation. Whatever is vexing you the most (changing career, health, relationships, family, etc.) challenge yourself to fix and tend to it or them. Let’s say you’re on the verge of career transition; ask yourself these questions:
A) What’s important to you about your work and career? Is it the praise, the need to help others? The income?

B) What are you doing to actualize your goals? Would you rather invest in the time needed to embark on a new professional journey… or would you prefer to be stuck at the same gig for the next five or 10 (or more) years?


These queries will give you a clearer idea of the direction you should take for the next phase of your life. Snatch the bridles and track the path that you’ve always wanted to take.


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